I sure watch a lot of DVD’s. Bless Netflix. Bless ‘em. Bless being able to knock out entire years of production in small sittings. Continue reading to find out how much I have neglected my ass and intelligence to the couch.
I took the liberty of re-printing this so you could see it. Should anyone contact me asking to remove it, I will. But it’s too good not to share. A lot of people I know could take lesson and perspective from this article. Enjoy! –Aaron
Classifying relationships can be difficult, complex and burdensome, but it is necessary. When we are in some form of relationship, what factors are essential for accurate classification? How do we evaluate someone’s relationship potential? How do we know the other’s perspective of the relationship? The measuring factor should probably be happiness, self-satisfaction and mutual agreement.Most people possess an internal, natural instinct that assists in classifying a relationship into one of four categories: playmate, placeholder, partner or dating.
A playmate is defined as someone that is a companion to nightclubs, dinners, bars and other late night encounters. Playmates rarely spend the night, but usually leave at 3 a.m. A playmate is rarely introduced to friends and neighbors and forbidden from meeting family. The money that is spent on a playmate is very limited and the time that is allocated towards a playmate is minimal. Playmates are always fun to be around and extremely attractive, but commonalities and personality differences are so painstakingly obvious that one would have to be completely blind not to see them. An example of a playmate situation would be when you are at a bar and see a person in their early 20’s with someone old enough to be their father, or worse, grandfather.
Playmates need to be aware of their status because a long-term playmate relationship often leads to someone being emotionally hurt and disappointment. How do you know if you have a playmate? When you attend a friend’s party and have no intention or thought of asking the playmate to be your date. How do you know if you are a playmate to someone else? When you want to attend a social event, but the other suddenly develops sociophobia. I recommend staying away from these situations because they can be dangerous, complicated and result in drama.
A placeholder is defined as someone that is a companion to social events, dinners, and other events. A better description would be a placeholder standing in a pair of lost shoes until the actual owner, the partner, finds them. The introduction of a placeholder to friends, family, and neighbors is not uncommon. The financial resources spent on a placeholder mirrors the amount spent of a partner. However, the interest that is allocated towards listening to a placeholder is less than a partner. For example, when the person you are with talks about what they want to accomplish in the short-run, you care little about continuing the conversation, but feel obligated to listen. That is probably one sign of many that the person is a placeholder.
Moreover, what distinguishes a placeholder from a partner is the internal reservation that is well-fortified and impregnable to the idea that the relationship is going to develop further. The feeling is unexplainable, but forever present. How can you be sure that the person is a placeholder? You already know! How do you know if the other views you as a placeholder? Regardless of whether you live together or apart, a test would be mentioning the idea of getting a pet and inquiring if there is any interest in raising the pet together. Raising a pet requires commitment. If the other is against the idea alone, without discussion or compromise, you are probably a placeholder.
A partner is defined as a person that understands there is a mutual relationship, is committed to longevity and realizes honesty is very important. A partnership between two builds on itself. This is evident by one helping the other’s professional career, financial situation, education or anything else deemed important by the other. Financial resources and time are never issues that impede supporting the other’s goal.
Moreover, shared trust must be so overwhelming that the thought of cheating or being dishonest does not enter either’s mind. Both know that any anti-relationship conduct risks placing the partnership into the placeholder category. How do you know if you are in a partnership category? The other’s interests and goals are equally important as yours.
If none of these three categories accurately describes your current situation, you are probably just dating. Dating is defined as getting to know the other person without expectations. Most people find themselves in this situation. Some take this more serious than others. Some date multiple people at the same time and some date one person at a time. Dating is a positive thing because you know you are not in a playmate situation, unsure if a placeholder category is correct and it’s too premature to discuss the partner status. Just be careful and don’t date too many people at once. You may develop a reputation in this small community.
David Placher is an attorney. His relationship classification is forever single.
Facebook SPAM: Finally Out To Make Your Dick Bigger
At 1058pm and 158am, I received an identical post from two different people (women) to my “Wall”. Facebook is the only service I have known to be SPAM free (save the constant application invites), so I am pretty concerned and disappointed. But I can’t say I am surprised. Matter of time, I guess.
Be watchful. Facebook SPAM is probably not your friend’s fault. But it could become bothersome to the Facebook community quicker than a fire in the ancient city of Alexandria. Here is a post of said SPAM….
I keep thinking that lately, the best phrase to describe me is “temporarily out of service”. As a result, I have been focusing all of my energy on keeping up at the office. And to my pleasant surprise, I am barely making it work. I know I’m very close to a point in this new leg of my career where a light-switch clicks on and I get everything…and I am able to shoot off many more phone calls than I have been capable of doing of late. I just keep telling myself that it’s a matter of time.
You know it’s true. You know you want to click here.
